Behavioral Problems

No matter how much we try we never learn. A person's behavior is extremely complex and it's really fascinating to reason out the whys and hows of all our actions be it bad or good. But it's what defines us and plays an important role in all our lives. So I pen down this article highlighting some behavioral problems that we see very commonly in our day to day lives. Sometimes introspection like this helps us identify our own short comings and i am hoping that the same happens to me.

First of all, contrary to popular belief I think most of us know our bad qualities and however we may try to subdue it comes to the fore eventually. When this realization is not concrete we make many mistakes but most of them are minor and since people get used to it so the effect it leaves on them is also lesser. But once we become sure of our bad qualities then we try our best to change or control ourselves. Sometimes we succeed most times we are not and so from this originates cliches like 'Habits die hard!!'. But even when we have control in due course of time our vigil on the qualities tend to wear off and then one day the control breaks resulting major problems. Now I am saying that we shouldn't try to improve upon our bad qualities and that we shouldn't do anything about it. All I want to say is that constant vigilance is essential.

Next is actually a problem I have with many and which really destroys my mood. It's the tendency of some people of not getting satisfied with what they have. Many times in a few chronic cases people tend to derive more pleasure in seeing the misfortune of others than their own success. These are in most cases the people who create the biggest crimes/problems in the world. It's a play of the mind and if you are lucky enough to realize that you belong to this category then make the most of it. Be honest at least to yourselves and as I mentioned in the previous paragraph work hard to improve and maintain the effort. Otherwise, you of course would be in trouble but you might also destroy the peace of many others associated close to you.

Then comes the competition/Jealousy. I think this is quite natural and in healthy cases this results in a competitive spirit and in unhealthy cases it can be termed as jealousy. And associated with this habit is that of self deprecating the achievements of others so that we can console our hurt prestige because of our shortcomings or underachievement. Many times we even criticize great personalities and try to find our faults or try to magnify their failure so that we can sleep content that we have tried hard and it was just that we were not lucky. I am writing we because I believe at some point of time this happens to all of us, even if we won't admit it but this is actually quite natural. But the important thing is what we do when we realize this. Even if many of us might not have the guts/opportunity to apologies to the person against whom we had such feelings; at the least we can mentally check ourselves try to steer our thoughts away from such narrow mindedness.

Finally is of course the problem of inflated egos. Pride in oneself and one's achievement is essential otherwise we would be crawled over by all. However like everything else too much of pride becomes arrogance. And this state can be defined as having an inflated ego or to-much-self-esteem. The feeling of thinking everyone is  below you. This is also only of the core reasons of lots of problems in our lives.

I am no saint and at sometimes I admit to show these bad qualities except for the second one. Fortunately I have always been satisfied with what I have go or achieved. Many times people complain that I am too satisfied and lazy but I admit to have exhibited bad behavior a lot. But I have also been always honest to myself about correcting myself when I realize my mistake and also apologizing to the person concerned. So I can sleep peacefully at nights. Now I think I am much better person behavior wise compared to before. But doesn't mean that I will mollycoddle everyone; I will just try to stay as honest and truthful as possible and try to keep improving. Bottom line is - No one except God is perfect, everyone has problems whether they accept it or not. So look into yourselves and start identifying your shortcomings and work hard to keep them in check.